Sometimes I Need to be Held, Accountable.

by SimplySharpe on March 17, 2010

Lately, I have spent a lot of time rereading my old posts. Not just the ones I keep rambling on about that are no longer live (you’re welcome), but the recent published posts on here. The blog that was supposed to be my  fresh canvas. My return to writing. A fresh start about a wife, a life, a writer.

The only thing remotely consistent on these posts are that I am talking about  how much I miss writing, yet notice the time between posts. What am I waiting for? I have at least 4-5 ideas a day that  would make entertaining or informative posts. It depends on the time of day. Some days are more  creative then others. Some days I learn something that seems relevant to share. Yet I don’t.


I have a few outside factors that influence me that did not previously exist when I posted regularly. Career transition, living with the DJ, freelance projects that pop up at all hours, a minor addiction to staying connected, etc. I spend more time working on projects or having conversations on Twitter/Facebook and less on actually doing something I love. Writing. I also realize that I put my passion aside because a simple lack of accountability.

All that is about to change.

I now have an accountability partner. Not just anyone either. Someone who truly inspires me! A person who I have actually mentioned before in a previous post, Jeff Turner. If you are not familiar, he is probably one of the most interesting and impressive people I have the pleasure of knowing.  I met him at the most likely of places a conference, New Media Atlanta, where he was a Key Note speaker and panel host. Though I enjoyed his speaking and panel moderation, he really blew me away when we had a chance to chat at the after party.

One of the first things he said to me is “So, what do you DO?” and not in the standard conversation question way. There was something about his tone and and the conversation that followed that led me to believe there was something monumental that would follow from our friendship. I told him that I wanted to be a writer. Many questions followed about what kind of writing and what was holding me back. Good questions. Unanswered questions.

Then I learned a lot more about him. He runs several companies, Zeek Interactive, Real Estate Shows  and is well known for his world wide speaking engagements on emerging technologies. In addition, he and his wife Rocky have 6 (YES, six) children and run a non profit Mothers Fighting For Others ( As if all of this was not impressive, he is a genuinely down to earth guy with a true passion for engaging with people and not judging opposing opinions.

That being said, we stayed in touch over Social Media channels like Facebook and Twitter and one random Saturday he busted out with a tweet, “Why are you not writing?“. Given all of the things he has going on personally and professionally, it was amazing to me that he even remembered our conversation at all. I was honored to have made an impression on someone who I am so inspired by.

We talked about our mutual desire to write more often and formed a pact to keep each other accountable for writing. Not only am I thrilled to have Jeff as my accountability partner, but I get to be his. I sense that he does not need the motivation as much as I do (have you been to his page yet, he has more then 4 active blogs), however, I am taking the role very seriously!

I have no problem admitting that sometimes I need to be held… Accountable!

What activities do you find it helps to have an accountability partner? Do you have someone that helps keep you motivated and inspired? Where and how did you find them?  I would love to hear your thoughts!

{ 8 comments… read them below or add one }

HMA March 18, 2010 at 2:05 pm

Accountability is crucial. If we can’t lean on someone to break us out of procrastination-nation- where would we be!! Nothing is worse than a wasted idea- but not everyone had the luxury of being able to write when the notion strikes. My day job keeps me so busy and segregated from the digital world that most of my witty raptures are just eaten back up by my own brain and I’m the only witness to my coolness. What a shame. Others need to witness or I’m just a legend in my own mind!!

SimplySharpe March 18, 2010 at 8:22 pm

You just got a witness! One that is digital with a date stamp and everything. HMA is not a legend in her own mind. You read it here first.

I’m going to keep writing just so you will leave me insightful reminders of why the writing ceased in the first place. I think I just created my own version of post it notes. Thanks for playing 🙂

HMA March 18, 2010 at 10:12 pm

I thought you invented the internet? Oh well, I guess post it notes are just as cool. Sometimes I think of writing like racquetball: do-able but not a whole lot of fun by yourself, especially if you are feeling blocked (all kinds) or stiffled or stymied or just plain boring…I know I often feel bored with myself and my ideas until I tell you about one of them and you get all excited and then I feel literary-ily revived! And I can write again. Sigh…I’ve missed it. I’m too busy to keep a journal. So until tomorrow- when we can spawn some random evil on the bloggosphere. Is that in Webster’s yet? It seems like it would fit in right around bootylicious…xoxo

HMA March 18, 2010 at 10:13 pm

Post Script: I’ve just made your blog one of my favorite internet sites…so THAT’S what that button is for!

SimplySharpe March 19, 2010 at 12:26 am

No, that was Al Gore. I invented post its. It was all covered in the Romy and Michelle clause. Must remember to repost that along with Rules Are Sacred. Some of that not so stale content may see the light of day after all?

I have missed your writing and our collaborative efforts terribly! Does this mean you are considering making a “blob” comeback? I own a few domains that would make for a great tag team effort. We could go all WC on everyone and revert back to the Master Plan. Brush the dirt of your shoulders and get back to me.

HMA March 19, 2010 at 10:25 am

There’s so much dirt on my shoulders that I need one of those whisk brooms to knock it off. That being said, it appears that blobbing is imminent- digitally and on my thighs! And neck and arms and…oh- did I type that out loud? I’m in. If not for my entertainment or yours then for the entertainment of the masses! Tell me again why I decided that the world didn’t need to hear all of my vapid opinions? Did smug, self satisfacton go out of style when the economy failed? I wear “humble” so much better in real life but no on wants to read about all the nice things I do for others or how much better life is being that way. Do they? Can I still be cheeky and humble? I gave up my snark a while ago and didn’t miss it much. It’s not really smiled upon in thesis papers. The only thing I have to remember is to write from a real place- but darn it, sometimes it’s easier to fake it. I’m at the doctor waiting for my husband to come out of an epidural- it’s the first of 5. He had an accident last year (the girl who hit him was texting, match! So he’s suing…) and this is part if what he has to do for the lawyers. Just in case you were wondering why I’m digi during business hours.

HMA March 22, 2010 at 8:33 pm

write something else! I need to reply. I sure do wish I had my own place to blob! any suggestions?

SimplySharpe March 22, 2010 at 11:12 pm

I suggest we take this offline and get the blob back together.

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